Certificate of Compatibility Profile

The bearer wants to be known, to talk it out today, and to build together.

Review of the responses indicates that, after a disagreement at 6:40 p.m., the bearer raised the matter by 6:55 and stayed at the table until it was closed. The weekend plan was drawn up jointly in 3 of 3 conversations. The closing remark was recorded verbatim: 'Okay, we're good.'

Note: Your readiness to talk at once means a quiet evening can feel, to you, like an unanswered question, and the evening stays unsettled until it is closed.

Recommended: choose one joint project per season and put its first step on the calendar this month.

Straight talk and close contact come naturally; the goals stay the bearer's own.

The record reflects that, when plans for a Friday fell through, the bearer named the disappointment within 5 minutes and asked for a long evening together. A personal language course was mentioned in passing, and no help was requested. Closing remark, as stated: 'Good talk. Now, about my homework.'

Attention is directed to the fact that your separate goals can look, from the outside, like a closed door, and that explaining them takes 2 or 3 minutes.

It is recommended that the bearer announce one goal each month as plain news, with no request attached.

A pause before the talk, closeness throughout, and a shared plan at the end.

Based on the responses submitted, the bearer, after a sharp exchange at 7 p.m., went to the balcony for 40 minutes and then rejoined the conversation. Dinner was eaten together, and a trip for two was sketched on a napkin by 9.

Note: A pause that comes with an end time, such as 40 minutes, lets the closeness you want resume on schedule; without one, the evening stays open.

It is recommended that you state the length of the pause in advance, for example, 'back in 40 minutes.'

Close contact is wanted; so are quiet hours before talking and goals of one's own.

Review of the responses indicates that, on a Sunday, the bearer spent the morning on a personal project, joined a shared lunch, and raised an earlier disagreement at 3 p.m., 20 hours after it began. The matter was settled in 12 minutes.

Also on file: long stretches of quiet and separate work leave your wish for closeness easy to miss, so a single sentence of explanation goes a long way.

Recommended: hold one weekly dinner with no phones, and use it to say what the week's quiet was about.

Personal space is recorded, together with prompt speech and shared plans.

The record reflects that, when a remark at breakfast caused friction, the bearer addressed it at 8:10, before leaving for work. The evening was then spent in the study with the door closed and the plan for a joint vegetable garden open on the desk. The door was opened at 9:30.

Note: Your closed study door and your open garden plan send mixed signals, and the explanation takes one sentence.

It is recommended that the bearer name the hours of solitude in advance and the hour of the joint plan right after.

Space is kept, trouble is named at once, and the goals run in parallel.

Testing indicated the following: when a late arrival caused irritation, the bearer said so within 10 minutes and went for a run at 7. The training plan for a solo trek was described as 'my project.' Dinner took place at 8:30, at the same table.

Additionally noted: when you speak up early and then go your own way, the matter is settled quickly and the rest of the evening is left unplanned.

Recommended: after speaking up, say what happens next, such as 'I'm walking at 7, then home.'

A joint plan suits the bearer, as do a private room and a pause first.

Review of the responses indicates that, after a difference of opinion on Saturday, the bearer went to the garage for 2 hours and came back with a sketch of a bookshelf to build together, with a start time of 10 a.m. Sunday. Remark on record: 'I just needed the garage.'

Note: A 2-hour pause leaves the joint plan waiting, and you may find the first minute of picking it up the hardest.

It is recommended that you leave a short note on the door, 'In the garage until 5,' when you step away.

Space, a pause, and goals of one's own all point the same way.

The record reflects that, over a free weekend, the bearer spent Saturday at a pottery class and Sunday on a long walk, both alone. A disagreement from Friday was addressed on Monday, in 6 minutes, at the kitchen counter. The matter was closed by 8:06 a.m.

Attention is directed to the fact that your weekend leaves few fixed points where a second person could join.

Recommended: pick one fixed point each week, such as Thursday dinner, and keep the rest as is.